THE MANY FACES OF LOVE: PART I: NOT ALIKE - EQUAL

NOT ALIKE - EQUAL

DUSTYBEAR SAYS:

WE ARE NOT

all of us created alike. 
God knows.
But we ARE created EQUAL.
WE DESERVE to be treated equally 
and that
means in love too.

Men are not monochrome but layered in bursts 
and splashes of color...racing across the earth...painting LIFE in glorious textures 
and vibrant variety. No man irregardless of 
anything else is ONLY ONE thing. 

We are complex as a species and 
adventure is our middle name.
If that were not true, we wouldn't be here NOR would we have accomplished and achieved what we have and that is true irrespective of your religious beliefs, your orientation, or your ethnicity. 
Age, Height, national origin. We are a rowdy bunch...and curious as HELL.

We are explorers BY NATURE. 
It is the experiences we have and then share that provide the ultimate 
make-up we are constantly 
putting on that will 
DECORATE OUR FACES 
as we walk into heaven 
on that day. For some of us, 
it will include 
our bodies as well.

SEX is NOT love. 
UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND THAT CONCEPT 
YOU WILL NEVER really understand 
other people OR LIFE OR YOURSELF.

It is NOT the accumulations in the probably infinite variety of shapes and sizes of our sexual adventures that defines us as lovers. It is the quality and the texture of the content 
of our MAKING LOVE that does.

With other people and in reality in the way we approach them AND LIFE that determines for others who WE are as beings who live and love LIFE. 
I can stand at the top of a mountain 
and make love to the view. I can see a cow giving birth and it's the same.

Life is what we love. 

LIFE AND LOVE is what TOUCHES us.
For many it becomes the zippy tingle.
For others and rightfully so,
it may be that too but in truth it is 
SO much more.

Touch my zipper and WE may 
get rowdy for tonight.
TOUCH MY HEART, SOUL, LIFE, EMOTIONS, MY CORE BEING...
and I GUARANTEE YOU WE WILL BE MAKING ROWDY FOR FAR LONGER.

MY love for YOU is NOT what you look like. MY LOVE is how you make me feel. How you TOUCH me in all the ways another can...
apart from the visual. 
When you GRASP THAT?
You are FINALLY starting 
to 'GET IT'.

Another person is WHO we have narrowed our vision to share 
that life with. Then to see that 
love of life for us EXPLODE into 
the kaleidoscope that is for 
most of us at least LIFE 
in day-to-day terms.

We sometimes forget 
(but anniversaries remind us) 
that WHO we choose to live our 
life with very much determines 
WHAT our life becomes...
and also determines for us 
the depth of meaning 
our life holds.

SEX IS NOT LOVE. 
You make love. You have sex.
Making is creating. Having is merely using something we have at
our disposal like a 
stove you cook on but 
didn't build yourself. 

HUMAN BEINGS ARE BORN 
WITH A NEED TO CREATE.
We see the evidence of this 
all around us.
We create things. 
We create conditions 
and environments in which to 
live our lives. 
We design and build houses to live in and cars to transport us and things 
to enrich our lives 
AND we create the love we need 
for our hearts to be fed and 
our souls to be enriched by engaging and joining with another.

Do I need half the crap I have? 

Probably not.

When I go to buy a toaster for example?

Why do I need THAT much choice. 
Color, material, 
2 slice or 4 or 6.
The toast doesn't care if the toaster is 
black or orange or chrome. 
WHY SHOULD I? 
I am not eating the toaster.

I swear, 

if you let an infinite number 
of humans into a room with an 
infinite number of options 
to choose from, and you tell them 
to create...SOMETHING. They will create more shit in less time with less need for most of it
than ever before in our history. 

WHY I will leave for another time...

but it IS true, and why do we need 
99% of it? 

WE NEED TO CREATE. That is why.
We NEED to be busying ourselves 
to make sure we are...what, 
earning our KEEP? LOL.

DO NOT DO ANYTHING. 
YOU will merely fuck it up. 
BUT FOR GOD'S SAKE, 
cause HE IS LOOKING 
(we convince ourselves),
OMG...
LOOK LIKE YOU ARE DOING... SOMETHING, ANYTHING, SOMETHING...
before he catches on 
and yanks your visa.
Later we can ALWAYS say you were creating. I don't know. HAHAH.

OKAY, SO YOU NEED TO CREATE. 
For us humans it is as much a part 
of life as breathing 
and equally as important. 
NEVER by the way 
tell that to a cat.



(I lost my baby last Tuesday
I am still grieving)


He or she ALREADY 
thinks you're nuts.

You need to create 
out of your individual environments 
that which will comfort you. 
Enrich you. 
Thrill you. 
Consume your emptiness 
and sustain you 
UNTIL YOU DIE. As I do.

Baby, that IS the natural order 

of things and two can create more 
and better than one.







WHO that it is who will share along with you your life in that which 
you jointly create 
is UP TO YOU.

It does not matter. Guy with guy. 
Girl with girl. Guy with girl. 
Guy with sheep. Girl with peat moss and a trowel.

WHATEVER!

What MATTERS FAR MORE is that 
you DO create the environment that 
the two of you can live within and THRIVE.

One last thing. Your orientation should be the LEAST important thing about you.  It is YOU in your entirety that comprises the person you will become, not only one part.

WHO you love in terms of gender really isn't a choice in the natural scheme of things. The whole point is for each of us to BECOME, fully developed as God created us...and NOT some other person's idea of who THEY THINK
you should be. BE who you ARE, not some idealized version that only leads to a sense of being unfulfilled, and shallow. INSINCERE.

THOSE idjits who would direct YOUR life are a dime a dozen and 
horribly overpriced. 

NO.
You need to be YOU. Period. End of sentence, end of discussion...for if  
YOU DENY YOU TO YOU? 
YOU...LOSE. For all eternity.
MAKE LOVE. Make happy, not war.

Okay, orientation. 
Geez ain't we got this down YET?
OK.

You are created BY GOD with an apparent predisposition toward the opposite sex 
OR the same sex, or sometimes both.
(oh please GOD no. LOL. 
I get too confused way too easy 
for that bullshit). 

But it just shouldn't be important. 

IT IS A GIVEN
and only matters in that it is 
the PERSON you choose, 
not the orientation, 
that determines FOR YOU 
a lot about 
the PERSON YOU BECOME ULTIMATELY.

Even the mainstream Christian Church 
for the most part has come to realize that. Certainly the majority of Americans do, 
the church and our pols notwithstanding.

Because from the minute you 
conjoin with another, it is your 
MUTUAL LOVE AND LIFE 
AND LIFE EXPERIENCE that 
makes you become 
the person you will be, 
not your orientation. 

Not certainly your sex or the sex 

you have. More than your religion 
or faith. Your work and your everything else for what 
YOU BRING to everything and every situation you will ever find yourself in... 
in your life 
is formed by the relationship you have 
with your mate. GOT THAT?

IT IS...
WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR MATE,
that makes and gives your life the color, the music, the texture it is 
meant to have.  
If you choose to deny yourself 
and someone else the adventure of creating for the two of you that which will encourage, excite, enhance, fulfill...and bring to those who you encounter the ADVENTURE of your life FOR THEM,
you lose and so does everyone else.

I suppose I am prejudiced
and so be it.


But two dudes AGAINST ALL ODDS 

and a LOT of PEOPLE/
assholes/ bigots/NUTcases...
and who IN SPITE OF IT ALL have 
FOUND EACH OTHER AND FALLEN IN LOVE?

OH MY GOD that is SO kewl.






So cute and so kewl and THEY will 
walk the walk and laugh and love
FAR MORE
than what those who live in fear 
EVER will.

THEY have decided what they want 
and will fight for it. It's what
the cowards in our world society WANT but are too fucking afraid to 
GO after.

ANYONE, ANY DUDE with the balls 
to fight for what they want...?
BEAUTIFUL
And any dude who will fight for me?
I will end up loving the shit out of him.







Last time I looked, God gets unhappy if you don't skid to a stop in front of the Pearly Gates, horn and radio blasting and a huge shit-eating grin on your face. As Paul wrote in chapter 2 verse 22 of Galatians...

"The Fruit of the Spirit are these. LOVE, JOY.....".

I think he meant it boys and gerbils.
I really do.






AND I SAY GO FOR IT...



it will never get any easier if you don't get off your dead ass and go for it.












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