THE MANY FACES OF LOVE: PG 3 IGNORANCE IS NOT BLISS, NOT EVEN CLOSE

  LOVE AS A WEAPON

IF YOU DON'T KNOW HOW 

TO TREAT PEOPLE...

YOU WILL NEVER KNOW HOW

TO LOVE THEM

and sooner or later they will

weary of your shit and they

WILL leave you...ALONE.

_______________________________

I am seeing a whole lot of really ignorant bullshit lately. ON Facebook.

I MEAN, IGNORANT.

Dudes being all lovey one minute and 

all hostile the next, like I will shrivel up

and die if I can't be with them.

HAHAHA.

Yeh, right.

NOT GONNA HAPPEN dudes. NOT in your wildest dreams. You underestimate me.

You OVER estimate

your own ability to be charming.

I love to flirt, but don't take that too seriously. I may mean what I say, but baby to me? The world and the moon and the stars DO NOT revolve around 
YOUR ass.

You think you the only hottie?

LOL.

Guess again.

Kinda funny actually, watching these doofuses make SUCH FOOLS out of themselves.

The fear of love and relationships, the NEED to appear TOUGH or whatever to someone from the United States out of a lack of self-confidence on their part. The 

DISMAL FAILURE to assess what is really going on. ALL from a point of inexperience. Easy to spot the ones who have never or rarely engaged someone from the West. You can TASTE AND SMELL AND FEEL their feelings of inadequacy.

WHY?

Pakistani and Afghan men have nothing to feel inadequate about. SO WHAT if they are not used to dealing with Westerners, every relationship has to start somewhere. WITH two people who GENUINELY want to LEARN, DUDES, LEARN...about something beyond their comfort level.

I am lucky. I had Mustafa as my first Middle Eastern mate and he has won awards and had accolades because of his work with Afghans and Social Media.

HE was NEVER afraid to engage westerners and with his work with the UN and SKY NEWS UK, and CNN and ITN, 

my mate looked at the West as nothing to be feared and was looked at in return 
the same way.

If you show that you afraid of something, then the other person can see you as 
weak and disadvantaged.

The Brits did way back and so did the Russians more recently and that mindset of fear and inadequacy can do considerable damage to both sides...and the potential relationship perhaps irreparably harmed.

Do what Mustafa and I did. Start the relationship with anyone from the United States or elsewhere in the West as equals and then go from there.

Will work better that way.
Not arrogantly and not fearfully, but as equals. Seek to engage me or anyone else as if you are wanting to know them and know about their world.

BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING. 

Get to know me. Get to know THE WORLD I LIVE IN.

THEN...
you got a chance at developing a relationship worth having.